Written by Anthony and Lindsey Noles


If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.  James 1:5


James was known as “camel knees” because his knees were so tough from kneeling in prayer. #PrayerGoals. We should take advice from James in how we pray, and in many of our situations, how we pray for our families.


The first thing that James addresses here is humility, but in a funny way. “IF any of you lacks wisdom”? Ha! If marriage and parenthood has taught us anything so far, it’s that we most definitely lack wisdom. We do stupid things, say hurtful things, and prioritize unimportant things, so this part seems like a heart check. “You know you don’t know everything, right? Ok good.”


Then, “you should ask God.” Seems simple enough, but in how many OTHER places do we first try to find wisdom, love, security, etc.? You should ask God.


“Who gives to all without finding fault.” This is not credit-based giving. Stop trying to earn it. He doesn’t wait for you to _____ or to stop _____ before He’s willing to shower gifts on you. Our proof of this is Jesus!


“AND IT WILL BE GIVEN TO YOU.” You guys, we have a God who follows through. We are broken and terrible at follow through, but that’s not God. No prayer goes unheard, no desire is simply ignored. We need to trust that God is who He says He is, and that He loves us as much as He says He does.


In any family relationship, (in our season, marriage and parenting are the biggies, but this applies to any relationship) our supply of patience, forgiveness, strength, and frankly, love, runs out quickly when we try to do it on our own. God invites us to lean into Him in prayer so that He can be our Source of all of those things. We need to pray for His wisdom to be firm in knowing who we are in Christ even when our families see us at our weakest and worst, and we need to pray for His wisdom to serve and love them even when they are at their weakest and worst. We need to pray for His wisdom to give up control to Him, whatever that might mean at the moment. We need to pray for wisdom to be able and willing to show our spouses and kids what following Jesus looks like.


In what relationship do I need to ask God for His wisdom?


How do I pray? Do I pray as if I believe I am a beloved child of the King? Do I pray as if I actually believe He will answer?


Father, we pray for Your wisdom in our families. Please give us wisdom in how to spend time with them, in our words and actions toward them, to forgive and to ask forgiveness, in finances, in the everyday grind. Please give us wisdom on how to be Your people, not just at church but at home.